Dating Your Best Friend - Expectation Vs Reality
Dating your best friend may sound like a good idea in theory, but the practice of it is another story. Now, first let me qualify something: when I say best friend, I am not talking about your guy friend who you have always had a secret crush on and with whom you have amazing chemistry. I am talking about your best friend who is pretty much family and that you've always had a platonic relationship with. He is the one to call you out when you're being a jerk, and he is your partner in crime.
So here are the expectations vs the reality of dating your best friend.
Having the same interests
When you're best friends you like all the same stuff. You listen to the same music, eat the same food, watch the same shows. When you're dating it'll be the same...right? Wrong.
Expectation:
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Reality:
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Your comfort level
While you're just friends you wear your fat pants, go without showering, and don't put on make up. You'd think that level of comfort would be good in a relationship, but you're missing a whole time in your relationship of dressing up and getting to know each other. Basically...there is no "honeymoon" stage of dating.
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Fighting
You figure that because they know you really well, you won't fight much, and if you do, you at least know how to fight nicely with each other. In reality, you both have so much history on each other you can hit below the belt easily. And don't think that just because you didn't fight then, you won't fight now. Sex and commitment are great, but they come with fighting. It's natural.
Expectation:
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Reality:
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If it doesn't work out, you still have your friendship
You think your relationship will span the decades, but you've made the promise that if anything were to happen you'll put your friendship first. Suddenly, it all goes south. Now what? You try and hold together a friendship that once was, but how could you possibly stay friends after having been that intimate and sharing that part of your life with them. Now every guy you see with her is going to drive you crazy because you know exactly what he gets to hold at night. Can you really go back from that?
Expectation:
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Reality:
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You'll have both best friend and girl/boyfriend in one
Nope. The reality is that those are two separate roles. You'll find yourself needing to get a new best friend because who else are you going to complain about your romantic life to?
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You already know all the secrets and love them anyway
Don't think that there are no skeletons in that closet...there are ALWAYS things that you don't know.
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You think it'll be the same...but with sex
Sex changes things. Suddenly, when he would have normally told you not to dress like a hooker, so go put on a longer skirt with that top, his automatic response is "yes, you look great." He's seen you naked and he's not risking saying anything that will change that.
Expectation:
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Reality:
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The sex will be great
After all, you're super comfortable with each other, right? Well, you can't force chemistry.
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You already know their bad habits and still like them
You don't REALLY know someone's bad habits until you live with them. Seriously.
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Their families already love you
When you were the friend, that was one thing, but now that her father knows that you're going to be sleeping with her, you now have a target on your back. And the mother and sister? They're looking at you to see if you make husband material. It all changes.
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You've chosen your best friend - it can't get any better than that.
The question of settling will enter your mind. Did you just go for the easiest option available?
Expectation:
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Reality:
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