hey poke proactively out of bikini tops, peek over lacy push-up bras, and flaunt their fabulousness naked in bed, turning any male into a panting pile of mush. The bosom plays a vital role in pleasing both partners. Know the right moves, though, and you'll have her melting in your arms. These tips will help you double your pleasure, no matter what her size or type.


Large
Researchers have found that large breasts are about 24 percent less sensitive than small ones. So, arouse the outer sides of her breasts with your tongue; even your fingers can do wonders. Use your tongue to make flipping motions and experiment with light nibbling.
Small
Small breasts are very sensitive, but it's an advantage as they can handle more motion. Men can use their palms to cup and gently bounce the breasts during play.
Droopy
They are the last ones in queue, being the least sensitive. This is because the nerves are stretched and they are compressed by the breasts' weight. To relieve tension on the nerves and help her focus on the pleasure, have her lie on her back, which will cause her breasts to shift up and out.
Surgically enhanced
One should take care of a few points and do it carefully, to insure implants don't interfere with sensation. They will move differently. One should concentrate on the surface of the breasts. Use your tongue to make circles that gradually spiral in toward the nipples to give her the required pleasure.
New-mom breasts
Due to pregnancy, the nipples become tender, so men should focus on the breasts' undersides, which are usually neglected. Gently cup and support her breasts. This will make her feel nice after a long day of suckling.
Nipples
The nipples are important, in fact, in some women, you can induce an orgasm just by doing breast duty. But the sensitivity of nipples varies widely, so one should remember to handle them with care. They're also thermometers, popping up when the weather's cold, like giant goose bumps. So don't feel too effective without having worked on them yourself.
What they never told you about the boob trap
1. Talk to her about her assets -- the soft skin, how kissable they are and everything else that feels nice about them.
2. Women prefer to begin with a caress, so start with kissing and cuddling them.
3. Sucking the breast can be great, but again, remember not to keep sucking in a constant, steady motion, keep switching your moves!
4. Just remember to keep returning to the breast -- it'll make it more interesting for her.
5. Even if you like it rough, don't gnaw off the nipple. A little teeth does the trick.
6. Don't forget to play with other parts of the body; else she'll see it as all lust.
7. If the idea turns you on, encourage her to try breast sex with you.
8. If the nipples aren't hard, then what you're doing isn't working

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Career-driven women 'sharing husbands'

According to the Council, some of them don't even have any qualms in becoming second or third wives to married men.
The charity, based in Britain, gives legal guidance to Muslims and has said it is receiving a high number of queries from women struggling to find suitable partners.


Many of the women have also said they would prefer to hold down high-profile jobs rather than look after their husbands.
Taking more than one wife is illegal in the UK but men marry again in a 'nikah' ceremony, allowing them to take up to four wives.
Mizan Raja, 35, who organises Muslim marriages around the world, said that he has had hundreds of calls in the past six months from women asking about becoming second wives.
"The demand for these relationships is led by the women, not the men. In one generation women have become educated, entrepreneurial and professional," the Daily Mail quoted Raja as saying.
"The Muslim community is struggling with this, how do you cope with women who wear trousers?
He revealed that many Muslim men just wanted a 'homemaker' and to come home to a clean house and a plate of food on the table.
He added the men didn't want the 'headache' of being in a relationship with a professional woman.
It is thought the Muslim women are also actively seeking out married men because they do not want the hassle of having to cook for their husbands after a hard day at work and are quite happy to get into part-time relationships.

One woman who spoke to the Sunday Times, and asked not to be named, had an affair with a married man after divorcing her first husband.
When he offered to leave his wife she preferred to become his second wife because she did not want him 'under her shoes 24/7'.
It is thought about 12,000 brides are brought to the UK by Muslim men.
The decline in available husbands has become such a problem it is now referred to as the 'Muslim spinster crisis'.

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If you thought men's sexual response is quite simple and their needs can be met easily, then you certainly need to revise your knowledge of the "birds and bees," for men aren't as simple as they are made out to be. According to Fox News, here are 10 things that you didn't know about men and sex:

1. Trapped Sperm
Not all sperm go racing for the egg at once. Once sperm has been deposited into the vaginal canal, some of them are temporarily trapped in a semen coagulate or clot. Eventually, they are decoagulated by enzymes, which set them free to swim about a female''s reproductive system. This clotting, according to scientists, is meant to pace the release of sperm into the uterus, increasing the chance that one of these sperms will reach the egg and fertilise it.


2. Oxytocin affects males too
It is believed that oxytocin affects females during sex (and breast-feeding). But this cuddle hormone, released by both sexes during intimacy, is also found to influence males. Research from Switzerland found that oxytocin is associated with increased feelings of trust in males.
3. High testosterone = Less sex
While higher testosterone levels is typically considered a good thing for men when it comes to their sex drive, still researchers continually found that males with higher testosterone levels marry less often, are more abusive in their marriages and divorce more regularly. In fact, married men see more action than single men.
4. Death during sex has a prototype
While examining the incidence of death during sex, a 1975 study discovered a unique pattern in males: the "deceased is usually married; he is not with a spouse and in unfamiliar surroundings," and death usually occurs after "a big meal with alcohol." Another study in 1989 found further evidence supporting the extramarital sex bit. Fourteen of the 20 cases of "la mort d''amour," or coital death, happened during an affair.
5. Orgasm ... or lack of ... may prevent breast cancer in males
A study in Greece found evidence that the frequency of adult orgasms may have an impact on the incidence of breast cancer in men. In fact, it was also revealed that males with breast cancer had experienced fewer orgasms on average than men without the disease.
6. You can tell a guy's size by his fingers
A University of Liverpool research cited that if a man''s ring fingers are longer than his index fingers, this means there were healthy testosterone levels in the womb. If the ring fingers are the same size or smaller than the index fingers, then the male received lower levels of testosterone, implying that one can estimate the length of his organ by the length of the ring finger.
7. Men fall in love faster than women
It's not the women, but men, who get out of control after a glimpse of the right attractive face and fall head over heels in love immediately, claimed love researcher Dr. Helen Fisher.
8. Family affects testosterone
As a man becomes increasingly attached to his family, his testosterone level goes down, according to a 2001 Mayo Clinic study. Particularly, fathers experience a significant decline in levels of testosterone with the birth of his child, especially when he holds the baby.
9. Can a bowel movement make for bliss?
In a 2002 study, it was mentioned that a male had a history of orgasmic-like feelings after going to the bathroom. After he answered nature's call, his body went through the rest of the male sexual response cycle. His pulse rate increased as he reached climactic state, followed by relaxation, then extreme fatigue.
10. Males like 'unusual' sex
Men have a 20 to 1 likeliness against women to practice an "unusual" and often socially unacceptable or illegal behavior, for example exhibitionism.

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Is porn breaking up Mumbai's marriages?

Counsellors say pornography places serious strain on married couples in Mumbai, even though it isn't "technically adultery". But it does fall under mental cruelty, say advocates, who want the divorce law amended

Porn is the new culprit. It's the "other woman", the cause of low self-esteem, depression and constant spats in marriages. So much so that seven out of ten Mumbai couples say that porn is causing their relationships to break down and want a divorce.


Prachi T, 25, (name changed) a professional from the health industry, was happy when her parents found her a suitable groom in 2007. A month later, she was married. Five months later, they had yet to consummate their marriage, and she found pornography videos on her husband's laptop. He said some friends had downloaded it but she later caught him watching them. He defended himself, saying, "Everyone watches porn. It's nothing abnormal." So she asked him why they had not consummated their marriage. This was followed by three failed attempts. She tells MiD DAY, "There was no intimacy, love or affection. We were strangers even after a year of marriage. Then all of these issues turned to fights. Now there is no other option. I have filed for a divorce."
Prachi is not alone. Psychiatrist Syeda Ruksheda, who is marriage counsellor at Trellis Family Centre, says, "Porn addiction is becoming a major problem in marriages and relationships. Pornography is causing a strain in seven out of 10 married couples that come here for counselling. The spouse of a porn addict usually suffers low self-esteem and blames himself/herself for not being able to satisfy their partner. Also, the issue here is why is a person's spouse attracted to other people?"
Porn or adultery?
Divorce lawyer Siddhartha Shah says, "Excessive viewing of pornography may lead to discord, but isn't a direct ground for divorce as per law. While filing a petition for divorce, the aggrieved spouse may state pornography as a cause for gross mental cruelty.
"Porn addiction leads to serious stress in a marriage and a neglect of obligations. Since watching pornography is in the conduct of infidelity, it amounts to an adulterous behavioural approach, but isn't technically adultery as per law. There is a rampant rise of cases where porn addiction causes family disputes. The law requires certain amendments, considering the virtual world and the times we are living in."
The need for an amendment in the divorce law is seconded by Neelofar Akthar, president of family court, Bar Association of Mumbai. She says, "We need many new amendments in the divorce act and one particular element is pornography. Currently, we are doing a study on the causes of marital disharmony leading to divorce pornography is one of the factors. We will bring this up soon and appeal for an amendment of the divorce law."
Living in a fantasy
The problem starts when the spouse gives more importance to virtual sex than the real relationship. Dr Hitesh Shah, sex therapist and marriage counsellor at Poornam Wellness center, says, "A person loses the ability to be satisfied through normal sex."
Since porn propagates stereotypes, it creates unnatural obsessions. Men start categorising women or get obsessed with sizes. Sharmee Bhuta, marriage counsellor and founder of Soul Search says, "Porn gives men the notion that women are at the mercy of men."
Even women get addicted and therapists warn that this creates an unhealthy obsession with fantasies most of which don't have any place in the real world of marriage.
Treatment needed?
Dr Anjali Chhabria, consultant psychiatrist of Mind Temple in Juhu that counsels couples, says, "In most cases, the husband is addicted to porn. Watching porn with your spouse is all right, but if you can only have intercourse with your spouse after viewing porn, than you have a problem. Addiction to pornography could lead to paedophilia and other unnatural sex addictions."
Most counsellors say that you can treat a severe addiction to porn by discussing the guilt and depression that comes from it and trying to curb it slowly and steadily. Therapists also say that patients should be made to get in touch with their emotional sides.

When porn interferes

>>Brijesh Shah is a financially sound 38-year-old Gujarati businessman. But he can't go a day without masturbating and viewing pornography. He loves his wife but can't have intercourse, as normal sex doesn't stimulate him anymore. He is depressed that he can't please her and ashamed that he is not a good role model for his kids.
>>Carol D'Monte is financially and socially dependent on her husband who is a porn addict. She doesn't feel secure enough to divorce him, even though she has been tempted to. She found out about his addiction about nine years after marriage.
>>Ashish Nair (35), a TV and film director, has been married for five years. He had erectile dysfunction which caused conception issues. Pornography gave him an element of variety. This caused a strain in their relationship.
>>Aftab Khan enjoyed pornography and fantasy through sex chat, and was disinterested in intercourse with his wife. She created an ID and started chatting with him. She was shocked at his interest in sex with women over chat. She also found out that he had had affairs with some of these women.
(The names of patients have been changed to protect their identities)

It's not a crime to view porn

>>It is not a crime to view pornography in India. Under the Information Technology Act, 2000 a person is found guilty only if they publish, transmit or cause to be published in the electronic form, any material that is lascivious.
>>At a 2003 meeting of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, two thirds of the 350 divorce lawyers who attended said the Internet played a significant role in the divorces the year before the meet, with excessive interest in online porn contributing to more than half such cases. Pornography had an almost non-existent role in divorce just nine or ten years ago.
>>A Duquesne Study in 2000 showed that men prefer visual erotica twice as much as women, while women favour chat rooms twice as much as men.
>>It also concluded that women had slightly lower rate of sexually compulsive internet behavior. Further, it stated 70 per cent of those indulging in pornography keep their habit a secret.

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Many households in Mumbai have couples that suffer from privacy issues which hamper their sex life and sexual drive

After having sex on the chipped kitchen floor, Rahul and his wife Sneha dare not stretch to relax.
Because if they do, the steel vessels washed after dinner may just tumble off the wooden table on which they are kept; the table, which has a broken leg, is a mere millimetre away from Rahuls elbow.


After four years of marriage, this couple is no longer conscious of the space constraints in their 220 square foot house a chawl in Mahim.
And sex for them is simply an act that helps them achieve satisfaction. As Rahul says, In this space, forget foreplay and other stuff. Get done with it before my parents, or our child, wake up.
Rahul and Snehas story is an oft-repeated one in the city at least 55 per cent households in Mumbai suffer similar problems which hamper their sex life and sexual drive. As per census records, more than 50 per cent of Mumbaiwallahs live in slums, while another five to eight per cent live in chawls or one-room flats.
Consequently, sex for all of them is a very public affair. Often as is the case with another married couple, Salim and Rehana the only things separating a copulating couple from the rest of their family are curtains or shabby wooden planks.
Worse: Many couples are forced to sink themselves deep into dark-coloured blankets which serve as the perfect camouflage if they are having sex and sharing their bed with other family members.
Since we got married, Ive been sleeping with my husband on the kitchen floor. Its the only time we get any privacy. The fact that the floor hurts under a thin bed sheet or that anyone can step in at any time is of little concern, says Sneha.
Other families have a more co-operative system in place. When Vikhroli-based Sahils elder brother got married a few years ago, the newly-married couple moved into the only bedroom in the house, while its previous occupants, their parents, began to sleep in the hall.
When Sahil got married last year, he and his bride got the same bedroom, while his brother and wife shifted out in the hall.
It was a strange arrangement, but we all just understood, says Sahil, who has since bought a new home in Thane.
Its just satisfaction, not sex
Dr Prakash Kothari, a sexologist who counsels many couples facing similar problems, says that for lower middle class people, sex is simply about release, the attainment of satisfaction.
They just need to satisfy themselves and theyre actually happy, explains Dr Kothari.
According to him, people living in such households adapt to their circumstances and find ways of having sex. Sometimes husbands who go off to work come back home when the children have gone to school. Some couples take weekends off together or if they can afford it, check into a lodge, Kothari said.
Prashant and Trupti are one such couple, frequenting a small hotel in Chembur. However after a police raid there, they never went back.
Vikhroli-based Srikhant says he and his wife would use his aunts residence in Navi Mumbai to have sex.
She has a bigger house, with two rooms. One room was exclusively for us, says Shrikant.
Impact on children
Dr Dayal Mirchandani, a psychologist, says that lovemaking particularly in the presence of children can negatively impact them.
Seeing and hearing their parents have sex can give children the wrong idea about sex. Also, if they are going to regularly witness it, it will have a great impact on how they view sex as adults, he says.
Eighteen-year-old Lata Sriram, a resident of Dharavi, is uncomfortable about sex. Her parents engaged in intercourse in her presence since the time she was a child.
When my elder sister went off to school, my father would come back home. My parents would then make love. Id feel odd seeing them without their clothes. They neglected me for a few hours, or theyd give me sweets so that Id keep quiet, says Sriram.
Mumbai is for couples
RN Sharma, head of Urban Studies at Tata Institute of Social Sciences says that Mumbai is a city meant for couples, and most couples here are happy. This city is hostile to someone whos alone. But thats not the case with couples. Couples in this city always survive better, no matter what their problems, he says.

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